My dear ... it's not working on long term ... and will bring only negativity to us as a couple to keep complaining... and try to "fix" you so that you become that perfect woman from my illusory perceptions
My dear ... it's not working on long term ... and will bring only negativity to us as a couple to keep complaining... and try to "fix" you so that you become that perfect woman from my illusory perceptions
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An article written by the wellknown romanian writer Adrian Dumitru
Everyday … he found something which was not ok for him … and kept explaining to her … that she must change.
He made micro analysis of how she was dressing … the way she was connecting to anyone … her gestures … and … even the way she said “Hello” to people.
And … he really had a long, long list of things to “fix” at her.
Day … by day … doing the same thing … trying to “fix” her.
Unfortunately … it all became sort of a non-ending emotional attack.
… proving even to himself that he is actually … a communist.
But … one day … one friend told him … “Why do bother to continue changing her?! Can’t you see is useless?!
You do that by such a long time … and nothing improves .
Isn’t it easier to find another woman?!
I mean one … according with your values … your perceptions … “
He didn’t answered anything to his friend …. but started to meditate on those words.
Suddenly … he realised that it was nothing wrong with her.
It was just … that he was simply not compatible … with many things related with her.
And … like an idiot he tried to change her … believing it is the best for him … and for her.
But … she was a human too.
Not … a child.
Not even a teenager … which the parents were trying to “adjust”.
She had her own personality.
… her desires, her perceptions about life, her expectations…
And … like an idiot … he thought he had the right to… manipulate her … into such a way … that she will actually forget all about … who she really was.
A stupid expectation as … a woman with the appearance of a princess … to be totally obedient … in front of him.
Most certainly … a non realistic trend … but…
One year later … meeting him again … i’ve asked … “How is Jessica?!”
Ironically … he replied … “Who’s Jessica?!”
They were not together anymore.
… by a long time.
“I’ve tried too much to change her.
I was idealistic but … non realistic … and in fact … later on … I’ve discovered that she had more personalities … and i was not compatible with that.
I had to find another woman … but I’ve realised it too late.
We’ve wasted lots of time together.
And i was stubborn … believing i could re software her.
But … it was all illusory …”
So … the final question remains… why the hell we ask so, so much from our partners?!
Isn’t it … stupid?!
Well … most certainly … yes.
And … it’s one more thing … men are not aware of the fact that a princess … can’t be forced to act as an obedient Cinderella.
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